Yesterday over on social media I shared an incident which has lead to a thought to be considered.
This is what I shared:
Mom wanted to go to Walmart to pick up a new prescription. The nutritionist had told her she needed to walk so…she was walking. We crossed the store, she got her medicine and we started back across the store. We walked out of the building with me doing what I do all the time any time we are walking. I walk with one had at her side and the other across her back. Ready should she become unsteady. As we left the building a gentleman I have never seen before tapped me on the shoulder. When I looked he told me, “well done” and at my smile, kept walking. Mom asked if I knew him and I answered no.
I don’t do that for recognition. I do it because she did so much for me all my life, this is only right. It is very sad, but it is right. I am just glad my folks are still with us and still able to do as much as they are.
As I said, I don’t do this for recognition. I do it because I want to keep my mother safe. We all do this, whether it is with mom or with dad. The family is always close to be there, just in case. With mom being 87 and dad 93, stability is not their strong suit any longer. They walk slowly and they use canes. But they are walking and that is wonderful, wobbly or not. At home we walk beside them, out in public we are beside and slightly behind on the off chance that someone may come up in a hurry or distracted. All it would take is the slightest bump to cause them to stumble.
But to return to the point of this write. No matter what we are doing, good or not so good, we are seen. Our actions are noticed. Whether we realize it or not, we are seen. Not just by those with phones at the ready to video something happening. Not just by the doorbell or security cameras. We are seen by individuals. What they see, leaves an impression. My thoughts, in everything we do, we should do our best that the impression we leave, is good.
We don’t have to save the world. We don’t have to scale the side of buildings to save lives. We don’t have to feed and cloth multitudes. It can be done, through a single act of compassion. Whether that act is with a family member, a friend, of someone you have never met and will probably never see again. I have watched my son turn a server in a restaurants attitude completely around with a few kind and or silly words. I have seen him do things, that caught people so off guard and made such a difference. I envy his ability to turn a stranger into a momentary or life long friend. Though I have seen others who can do the same without effort or realization.
It honestly doesn’t take all that much.
Be genuine in action and word.
Be aware of the need of the moment.
Be ready with word or action.
Don’t be afraid to walk in compassion and caring.
Walk in peace and love, knowing that not everyone is going to understand, do it anyway.
Know that what you do, how you act, what you say, is seen and heard. You do and will leave an impression. The unknown gentleman told me well done. In my heart my first thought was, I love my mother, she did so much to raise me as a youth and she still does everything in her power to do for us all now. To be here for her, is an honor and a gift, not simply a responsibility even as it is that as well. I admit to the confusion and even hurt at losing my job, now I see that as the gift it was and is. I can be here for my parents and I am grateful.