November Seventeenth: To Sleep or Not to Sleep, The Issues Abound Even as I Remain Thankful

Interrupted sleep.

I’m sitting here, watching through the windows as the leaves outside fall like rain. Then again, maybe more like snow since they are covering the ground and getting deeper by the moment. While at the moment the various shades and colors of Autumn are still visible, that will quickly fade. The not so stray cats have been alternating between playing, and stretching out asleep on the swing out back. At least now the falling leaves don’t frighten them as they did in the beginning.


I’m sitting here, still yet to get dressed for the day, enjoying my coffee and the view out back. Part of me wishes that I had a better night’s sleep last night, but that didn’t happen. I can take away some understanding that I have gleaned from having sleep issues.


Before my husband died, I had no problems going to and staying asleep. After he passed away, that is when my sleep issues began. And obviously after last night, they still continue.


During the days following my husband’s death, it would take a while before I would finally drift into sleep. I would then awaken every hour on the hour. One minute I was asleep, the next I was staring at the dark ceiling listening to the radio barely audible behind me. Playing at a volume loud enough to fill the silence I knew would never again be filled with his snoring, his c-pap machine, the television he insisted on watching or his talking to the dog at odd hours of the night. When I would realize I was awake, I would not get out of bed, instead remaining where I was waiting on sleep to return. I was always awake long before the alarm went off alerting me to that rise and do your best hour.


Gradually it got better and the time between waking grew to be a couple of hours and then to a few times a night.

Unless I was stressed about anything. Bills that needed to be paid, home repairs, some job issue or other. Did I remember to lock all the doors and turn off that burner on the stove? Those would have me either lying there awake or awakening repeatedly.


I spoke with my doctor about it and was told to take Melatonin. I tried for a while, but it did not help with the remaining asleep and left me overly groggy during the day. Something that was definitely not safe working around machinery. After a while, and what some would call accident but I say by providence, I discovered a vitamin B12-energy drink that helped me through the slump period of my day. Those times when I was not constantly in motion making it difficult for the tired to catch up with me.


When I was laid off from my job of just shy of thirty years I no longer had to be up at four in the morning. I could and do sleep later but that doesn’t help the making times I awaken during the night. That means the search for better sleep is still ongoing.


One of the things I was doing, was taking a dose of a night time cold medicine. It actually was working and I was sleeping the night through. I’ve done this for almost two years. Over the course of the past few days I’ve been dealing with what I’m going to assume to be effects of long term use of the medicine. I stopped taking it two nights ago and the effects are indeed lessening. That then puts me on the search for ways to obtain better sleep.

One thing I have heard often is to have your bedroom completely dark, quiet, and cool. I will admit that my bedroom is neither. My window blinds are not fully closed allowing the security light to leak in. Its far enough away that it isn’t bright, but its there. I do not tolerate cold well so my room is definitely not cool.

Consider using white noise. https://www.sleepfoundation.org/noise-and-sleep/white-noise

I have heard to abstain from caffeine after lunch. Coffee didn’t bother me before and I am so used to drinking it all day and into the night making it difficult to break that habit. I will admit to slowly making changes.

Taking a long, hot, relaxing bath. Oh yes.

Stopping all electronic viewing at least an hour before bed. This one will take work as I’m constantly scrolling social media, researching for or doing some writing right up until I prepare to call it a night.

Keep disruptive pets off the bed and out of the bedroom.


Be checked for sleep apnea.

There is a variety of hot teas that supposedly promote better sleep. I’ve bought some of these and am trying them to see how well they work.

I’ve read not to exercise before bedtime and I’ve read that it doesn’t cause problems if you exercise before bed. This one I prefer doing during the day when I can get outside in the sunlight and fresh air. Though the cooling temperatures makes that more difficult.


Spending time in meditation and prayer. Talking with the Father and giving Him the issues you are dealing with. Allowing His peace to fill your heart and mind.

The Mayo clinic agrees: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/sleep/art-20048379


Harvard offers this: http://healthysleep.med.harvard.edu/healthy/getting/overcoming/tips


Healthline offers this and at the end a list of supplements to consider: https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/17-tips-to-sleep-better#7.-Consider-these-other-supplements


Verywellhealth offers even more: https://www.verywellhealth.com/natural-ways-to-help-you-sleep-88230


The thing is, there is a wealth of information waiting to be discovered online, through your doctor, in articles or videos. There for the finding.

But wait, why am I thankful for interrupted sleep? It gives me several things. One of which was the inspiration to do a bit of research in the hopes of what I find to try and help my sleep issues, may help someone else. I did learn a few things myself as in the other supplements that I can try until I work out the regimen of exercise, diet, sleep that works. My husband used to get so frustrated, he often said that I fell asleep as soon as my head hit the pillow and I didn’t awaken until the alarm went off. All while he faced the sleep issues I face now. The main thing though, is to let those who also suffer insomnia in any form know, you are not alone in your struggles.

About rebecca s revels

A writer, a photographer, a cancer survivor. An adventurer of the mild kind, a lover of the simple pleasures such as long walks and chocolate. A Christian unashamed of my faith and a friend who is dependable and will encourage readily. Author of three self published books with more waiting to find their way to paper. An advocate of good things, a fighter against wrongs.
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6 Responses to November Seventeenth: To Sleep or Not to Sleep, The Issues Abound Even as I Remain Thankful

  1. John says:

    Have you been checked for sleep apnea, Rebecca? It’s very dangerous and can lead to heart disease. I’ve used a CPAP since 2011. ❤️

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