How in the world, have we already reached the last day of July? What happened to time that has made it pass so quickly? And yet, so very slowly at the same time?
I had planned on attending an event that the Jeep group was participating in, but mom called this morning and was having a bit of a rough start to the day. So, I didn’t go. Mom is the reason I also haven’t sought employment as she and dad need me here and here I will be for them. There are priorities in life, it is up to us to decide what they are. Right now, mine are being here for them, whether to take care of things they can’t or to simply listen when one needs to vent a bit.
Mom keeps talking about dad wanting to go to the new casino. She may be hinting but that is one I can’t do. Not because I have anything against it. Not because I don’t want dad to have that time of doing something he enjoys. Not because I don’t want to drive the interstate. Its mainly because the casino doesn’t want anyone there who isn’t playing and I don’t have the money to hand over to them. So I don’t volunteer that one and I don’t feel guilty either, well a little.
I think, part of what is bothering me, is that the faster summer passes, the closer we get to the more expensive time of year. I either need to get my propane tank filled or replace my wood stove. If I want to be warm that is otherwise I’m good. Holidays are coming up where treats and an excess of food is needed. Gifts are needed. So I let that bother me and cause my sleep to be disrupted. But, priorities.
In the end, none of those things will mean a lot. Oh yes, there would be that temporary discomfort. I would have to layer ..a lot. It doesn’t get as cold here as other places. The nieces and nephews have gotten old enough to help out more with food for gatherings. Their kids for the most part have gotten old enough to understand if Aunt Becky is a little broke this year. She had to take care of priorities.
Other than being here for my family, there is me. I am my own primary caregiver. We all are, our own primary caregiver.
I have tried to eat healthy. I don’t always succeed but for the most part I do. I would much rather cook my own food, then eat fast food too often. I avoid sodas but for the rare ginger ale. If I’m working out in the yard or hiking, I drink plenty of water.
I do try to get plenty or exercise. I love those hikes whether up the local mountainside or in my own backyard. Especially when I get my heart rate us. In this heat though it is important to be careful.
I take care of my mental and emotional health. Seeking peace in nature, seeking distraction and calm in the watching the happenings out my window, aka kittens.
I seek intellectual stimulation through reading and studying a variety of subjects.
I seek a an outlet of sorts through friendships and being with others.
I seek peace in my spiritual life. Through prayer, through study, through gathering with those of like mind.
It is important that we seek out, understand and set our priorities. A guideline to living and thriving. There may be those times when we aren’t the happiest, or that the priorities limit us in some way, that doesn’t change their importance. What must change is our own mindset about them.
New parents may find out that their new little one has completely changed what they are able to do and when. That doesn’t change the fact the child is a priority.
Elderly parents may develop more needs and the requirement of more time spent helping them. They are still a priority as if not for them..
.Decisions for the future, not this time, but eternity and where one will spend that time, is a priority.
Do you agree or disagree? I’d love to hear your rational and polite thoughts on your priorities.