I think I can surface now. At least for the moment. For the last three hours I have been working my way through the various blog offerings I was notified were waiting. When there are so many, I feel as if I am buried and attempting to dig my way out. Now, understand I’m not meaning that as a complaint, merely an explanation and yes, lead in to my topic,
Underground, or that feeling of being buried underground.
Life has a way of burying us, or at least giving us the sensation of feeling buried. So much piles up on top of us we wonder if we will ever see daylight again.
When my husband died, we were in debt way over our heads. We had struggled for years to get things paid, to find a level of control over our finances. When he died, thankfully he did have insurance, but not enough to cover the amount of debt. It did however place me in the right position with the necessary tools that I could finish digging my way out of where I was. Since then, I have been very careful with debt and the amount I allow myself to get into.
I have had to learn a new mindset over finances and spending. Past habits if not controlled would allow me to start digging that hole. Since I am currently on a set income, it would be all too easy for that hole to fall in on me burying me in a way difficult to extricate myself from. So, to combat that, I make grocery lists.If the package purchased is larger than needed for one meal, I wrap and freeze the remaining, I make sure any leftovers are either frozen or given to a neighbor who appreciates even leftovers.
I carefully consider every purchase, is it needed? Is it essential? Do I merely want it but in actuality could do without it? Could I find the same item cheaper elsewhere?
I could, and will if it becomes necessary, change the way one of my expenses is set up. I have that tv, internet, home phone bundle. We have cell phones, and I watch so little television its a wonder the thing even still comes on.
I rarely eat out. Usually when I do, my son pays, and I gladly let him. I definitely don’t do the coffee shop thing. I’ve recently learned how to make really thick smoothies with fruit, Greek yogurt and almond milk. Healthier and here at home.
I do participate in Jeep group events, but I plan for those carefully. I remind myself that yes, another jeep shirt would be nice, but is it needed? Yes, they are meeting at a restaurant, I can see ahead of time what this place offers and plan accordingly.
Its all in the planning and control.
That’s all well and good you say, but my finances are fine. My physical health not so much.
Remember, I am not a doctor but..
Take an inventory of where you are. See where your problems rest. Then go from there.
How is your diet? Are you eating healthy or not? Are you relying on processed foods, or cooking your meals yourself? Plans can be set up so that it doesn’t cost more than the processed stuff. Create a meal plan, find the recipes needed, create your meal and safely store the rest. Experiment, be creative, who knows, you may find a new passion.
Drink water. If plain water isn’t your idea of tasty, add fruit.
If you need to get moving more, start slowly and build up to where you want to be. You don’t want to make yourself too sore from over use of muscles and give yourself an out. Walk for twenty or thirty minutes, adjust and add as your body allows.
Find exercises that use your entire body.
The internet it a treasure trove of information on healthy activities.
Get out in nature.
Get excited about the differences you see and feel in yourself.
That’s all well and good, but my mental health…
Our mental health can effect us in so many different ways and to a wide variety of degrees. There is a big difference in feeling sad and being depressed. For a long time mental health issues have been the hidden, never discussed dirty secret. To feel as if or to know there was mental health issues in yourself or a family member, it was a shameful secret that was not to be spoken of or let known outside the family. Thankfully the secrecy is being removed and better understanding being gained.
Again, I am not a doctor. I can’t speak on the various issues, causes and treatments. I do know that for issues that are not to the point of needing intervention or medication we can work toward taking care of in our own ways.
For stress, finding ways to relax. A long walk, a good book or movie, a soak in a hot tub.
For moments of loneliness, seeking out friends, events, hobbies you are interested in where you can meet other like minded folks. You can also learn to be content in solitude. I have found a great peace in my own company.
The most important thing I believe, is that we don’t try to hide it when we know there are problems.That we actively seek ways to find out way out of that time into better and healthier. Again, I am not a doctor so I can’t, won’t try to offer methods other than these. I’m not in any way making it any less important than any other issue, because it is as important and vital to our overall well being.
There are so many different ways that we can feel as if we are underground, buried and struggling. Each way as individual as the person. What overwhelms one may not another. That does not give anyone reason or allowance to gloat or boast or ridicule another. We are after all in this same boat of life, sailing on a sea of storms, struggles and confusion. Seeking the calm waters and warm sunshine.