I’ve had people apologize for making me mad, to which I reply, I don’t get mad. Dogs go mad. Semantics, mad, angry, same yet different. People then exasperated will correct with, I’m sorry I made you ..angry. To which I responded, anger is a waste of energy. I don’t get angry often as it really does take a lot to upset me to that point. But, in contemplation, it is possible that anger has its place.
Back in that former life when I actually had a job, there were times when I would get upset to the point of near anger. Well okay, there were times of anger but I grew and learned. Part of my job was relieving machine operators to take their break. The problem arose when they decided to extend their break, meaning the next person was delayed which meant my eventual break was delayed. Now and again wasn’t a problem, it was those who made it a habit. It did however, give the manager opportunity to discuss respect for coworkers and returning on time.
If I made a mistake, I would get upset, disappointed and depending on the degree of the mistake angry at myself. I knew the job, I knew to be careful, I knew not to allow myself to get into a hurry. Yet, I would, and mistakes would happen, and I would have to accept and deal with what I had or had not done and learn from them.
The angriest, most out of control, I have been, was after my husband passed away. I searched and found where I had written this, over on another site. (I’ll admit, I’m bad about having sites scattered all over the web and forgetting) http://rebeccasrevels.blogspot.com/2017/04/so-very-angry-at-you.html
Obviously I was beyond angry here. I was screaming in the written word, screaming out the pain that the tears not shed, couldn’t wash away. Couldn’t heal. Anger, when handled in a controlled method, can be healing as well.
There is a type of justifiable anger. The anger that burns due to injustices. The anger where you know something should not happen, should not have happened and needs to be prevented or rectified. Changes need to be made. Anger can be a driving force. Under the correct and proper circumstances.
But it can be used against us as well. We can be driven to believe something was an injustice, someone treated another wrongly, something in the past, something coming up is evil and wrong. Convince enough people, and problems ensue.
Anger, when out of control, can and does often hide the real issues. We get so angry over something we can’t see beyond the darkness it creates.
So it can be a wasted emotion, or it can be a tool. It is all in the handling and control.