April Eighth; Anger is a Wasted Emotion…or is it?

I’ve had people apologize for making me mad, to which I reply, I don’t get mad. Dogs go mad. Semantics, mad, angry, same yet different. People then exasperated will correct with, I’m sorry I made you ..angry. To which I responded, anger is a waste of energy. I don’t get angry often as it really does take a lot to upset me to that point. But, in contemplation, it is possible that anger has its place.


Back in that former life when I actually had a job, there were times when I would get upset to the point of near anger. Well okay, there were times of anger but I grew and learned. Part of my job was relieving machine operators to take their break. The problem arose when they decided to extend their break, meaning the next person was delayed which meant my eventual break was delayed. Now and again wasn’t a problem, it was those who made it a habit. It did however, give the manager opportunity to discuss respect for coworkers and returning on time.

If I made a mistake, I would get upset, disappointed and depending on the degree of the mistake angry at myself. I knew the job, I knew to be careful, I knew not to allow myself to get into a hurry. Yet, I would, and mistakes would happen, and I would have to accept and deal with what I had or had not done and learn from them.

The angriest, most out of control, I have been, was after my husband passed away. I searched and found where I had written this, over on another site. (I’ll admit, I’m bad about having sites scattered all over the web and forgetting) http://rebeccasrevels.blogspot.com/2017/04/so-very-angry-at-you.html

Obviously I was beyond angry here. I was screaming in the written word, screaming out the pain that the  tears not shed, couldn’t wash away. Couldn’t heal. Anger, when handled in a controlled method, can be healing as well.

There is a type of justifiable anger. The anger that burns due to injustices. The anger where you know something should not happen, should not have happened and needs to be prevented or rectified. Changes need to be made. Anger can be a driving force. Under the correct and proper circumstances.

But it can be used against us as well. We can be driven to believe something was an injustice, someone treated another wrongly, something in the past, something coming up is evil and wrong. Convince enough people, and problems ensue.

Anger, when out of control, can and does often hide the real issues. We get so angry over something we can’t see beyond the darkness it creates.

So it can be a wasted emotion, or it can be a tool. It is all in the handling and control.

About rebecca s revels

A writer, a photographer, a cancer survivor. An adventurer of the mild kind, a lover of the simple pleasures such as long walks and chocolate. A Christian unashamed of my faith and a friend who is dependable and will encourage readily. Author of three self published books with more waiting to find their way to paper. An advocate of good things, a fighter against wrongs.
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8 Responses to April Eighth; Anger is a Wasted Emotion…or is it?

  1. You have every right to be angry, lovely. Every right. Loss and grief make angry women of us all. I hope you are doing well. I am so sorry for your loss, sweetie, so very sorry.

  2. Cub Co says:

    I’ll let you into a little secret from someone with 6+ years of study in behaviour and 10 years of working to resolve it. Anger is not an emotion that arrives by itself. Anger is an emotion that follows other emotions. So we get upset, frustrated, embarrassed, confused, hurt, disappointed…you get the idea the emotion that generally follows is anger. It is a normal human response. And everyone! Yes everyone gets it! The majority of us show it. You get some people who are extremely adapt at controlling their anger and good for them but over time they have perfected coping strategies for this. Some will be healthy others will not. Recognising that you are angry or are getting angry is the key to controlling it and channeling this energy elsewhere. Basically do not feel guilty about feeling anger! It is not wasted it is a normal process of emotion the problems come when you suppress it. Don’t suppress it channel it so in this case channelling it into a list and presenting that to your boss over a period of time allowing you to come down from that initial ‘winding up’ period will help you to feel much better, and it’s productive so helps get your point across to management in a calm and well constructed manor. I hope this helps 🙂

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