February First, The Month of Love

 I may have to go back and change all of my word prompts. I do sit here and write down a word prompt for each day of the month, trying to continue a somewhat central theme. Last month obviously was new, this month, love.

I researched for words last night and came up with a list of words that can be associated with love. Now I’m rethinking that list. Sort of. I’m wondering should I stick to the list, or go with my second idea of what I or others, love.

When it comes to others, I would have to base comments on things I have witnessed or seen the things they share in conversation or on social media. Even then, that would still be an assumption due to the fact that people, myself included, have said they love doing things they don’t, just to please others.

On a side note, which is truly better? Doing what you don’t enjoy to satisfy others and keep the peace, even though inside you are really unhappy? Or not doing what ever it may be, causing the others to be upset, while you are content? Branching further, I would say that if there was a mutual, if you do this, I’ll do that balance, the aforementioned questions are moot. 

Going back to my list. The word I wrote for today is fondness. Vocabulary.com says: Fondness is love or affection for someone. Your fondness for your funny Spanish teacher might be part of what inspires you to work hard in his class. When you have a fondness for a person, you feel warm or tender toward them.

Is that possibly a step up from friendship or a variance of love? Are there degrees of love? Can one categorize, love? Where do the differences lie? 

Of course the answer is yes, and this link (even though it is to a flower site) share what the Greek called the eight types of love well: https://www.ftd.com/blog/give/types-of-love

Not to be outdone, here are the fourteen stages according to the Arabic language: https://stepfeed.com/14-stages-of-love-according-to-the-arabic-language-1371

Reading through these, I wonder how in tune are we to those levels? Do we recognize the steps and degrees that are mentioned in the Arabic? Do we mistake the stages that are mentioned in the Greek?

It seems very easy to fall into what we perceive and hope to be, love. Which it may very well be, it is the growth that brings the work that is involved in love. While there may actually be this thing called love at first sight, even that requires effort on both parties to bring about the enduring love that lasts a life time. If the work falls on one member of the relationship, it is either doomed to fail completely, or not be a happy, satisfying experience.

My thoughts?

There are degrees of love.

Love, takes work for it to grow and endure.

Romantic love has to involve both people, otherwise it is obsession.

We all seek and hunger for love. Even when we deny it, even when we argue against it, even when we run from possibility. The hunger and longing is there within us, seeking someone to love and someone to love us in return.

That of course is the romantic type. Love covers a large ground. We love our family, our friends, our pets, our country, that list goes on into near infinity. We love deeply and strongly.

But there is no love deeper, stronger or more true than the love of God for us. For God does not just love, God is love. https://www.biblestudytools.com/topical-verses/bible-verses-about-gods-love/

True love, is not that fancy box of candy, pretty card, or expensive jewelry. Love, is sacrifice.

About rebecca s revels

A writer, a photographer, a cancer survivor. An adventurer of the mild kind, a lover of the simple pleasures such as long walks and chocolate. A Christian unashamed of my faith and a friend who is dependable and will encourage readily. Author of three self published books with more waiting to find their way to paper. An advocate of good things, a fighter against wrongs.
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3 Responses to February First, The Month of Love

  1. cheriewhite says:

    Great post. And I love your line about love at first sight and you were spot on with it. Even love at first sight needs time to grow and it’s a day by day process. Love also takes work, which people these days have a hard time grasping. Thank you so much for posting. 🙂

    • Thank you, for your visit and comment. I agree, there seems to be a lot of people who at the first sign of trouble want to toss it all away and walk out. That may be easier than actually working on issues, but I believe it you take that time and make that effort, you could have something truly beautiful.

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